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STAPLEHURST PARISH MAGAZINE is far more than just a Church Magazine; it contains a lot of information about a wide range of organisations, activities and events of general interest in the village. It also carries advertisements for many of the local tradesmen and businesses.
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In a village appraisal the Magazine was voted the best source of information available in the village, which is probably why around half the households in the village already subscribe.
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Sue de St Jorre (Distribution)The Magazine Committee
When we speak to one another we do not do so only with words, but also with body language. With body language we convey emotions and modify meaning when communicating. You may have heard people say: "Wait a minute let me put my glasses on, otherwise I can't hear what you are saying." This is an example of how words, our body gestures and facial expression work together interdependently to put across meaning.
During the Holy week, the week before Easter, you suddenly have Passion plays popping up all over the country. The passion of Jesus (the suffering and death of Jesus) includes very few words. The drama unfolds in what happens to Jesus and how Jesus and those around him respond to the tragic events.
During Lent and especially in Holy Week, beginning with Palm Sunday we attempt to retrace Jesus' steps towards the Cross we observe:
Comfort in times of bereavement can rarely be expressed even in the most carefully thought out words. Comfort comes principally from being there and simply sharing the grief.
Jesus shows his love and forgiveness most effectively when he "allows himself to be handed over into the hands of wicked people". He shows his love and forgiveness principally in how he reacts to what others do to him. Society in the past has erroneously taught us to judge people by what they do. The Christian message and the Passion in particular, show us that we should judge people by how they react to what happens to them.
"Life is mostly froth and bubbles, two things stand like stone, kindness in another’s trouble; courage in your own." (Adam L. Gordon)
I wish you a happy and creative Eastertide
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'Time, time, time, see what's become of me?' Simon and Garfunkel sang this particular line back in the day, and I must admit I said it to myself this last week. Where is the time going? Christmas was over in a flash, New Year is now in the distance, children back to school, and Easter Eggs were on the shelves before the Christmas season was over. I remember when I was young my parents and grandparents saying 'Doesn’t time fly!' Well the scary thing is, I am now saying it – is this what happens when you turn a certain age?
We were talking about a family get together in the future and I hear my son saying 'but that is such a long time away' and I nod, knowing that when I was his age a week felt like a month, but now I blink and a fortnight disappears. How can I make things slow down, especially in this Lenten season?
I Googled 'time' (what did we do before Google?) and I found some great quotes "Don't say you don't have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein." H Jackson Brown Jr. "Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity." Henry Van Dyke. "Time is free, but it's priceless. You can't own it, but you can use it. You can't keep it, but you can spend it. Once you've lost it you can never get it back." Harvey MacKay.
How many of you have nodded your head reading those quotes? Psalm 90 is allegedly the oldest psalm and the only written by Moses and it's a prayer to God asking for wisdom to make the most of his time on earth. Verse 12 says "So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom." Moses knew the value of making the most of his time left on earth.
A lecturer at college once asked a class I was in: Suppose every day there was deposited in your bank account £86,400. There is a catch to it, what you don't use during the day, you lose. There is no forwarding balance carried to the next day. Each day you begin with £86,400. What would you do with it? Go on a spending spree every day?
We are given 86,400 seconds each day. Once the day is up, it's history. You can't save it, it's gone forever. It's foolish to squander and waste £86,400, and it is much more foolish to squander and waste 86,400 seconds. Not everyone would agree. Many people would say, money is more important than time. Many would say wasting money is foolish, but wasting time doesn't matter. When the twin towers were engulfed in flames on 11th September 2001, money was not a major issue, the stock market was not a major issue. The major issue was time. Time meant everything. Time to get out of the building. Time to rescue as many as possible. When many were trapped and death was inevitable, then time to use a mobile phone to say final words to loved ones.
So remember Moses' prayer - God, teach us to make the most of our time remaining. Give us a heart of wisdom to do the right thing. We all only have a certain amount of time, so let's make the most of it. Realise the value of time. Today is a gift, that's why it's called the present – remember it is the most precious gift you will ever be given. Don't waste it.
May you use the days of this month wisely!
With every blessing.
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As the days draw out and the Spring bulbs are flowering, we turn our thoughts from Candlemas (the end of the Christmas Season) on February 2nd, to those for Lent.
Lent is a special time for preparing our hearts and minds to be ready to walk spiritually with Jesus through Holy Week and rejoice in His resurrection on Easter Day.
There were hot cross buns and Easter eggs in the shops before the end of 2014, some even before Christmas Day.
It seems sad that the church's seasons, in a Christian country, mingle together because the secular area of society has forgotten that these are symbols attached to a religious season. They see food, treats and money instead of setting the time apart for selling these items at the appropriate time of year. They want to be first in the market.
Perhaps we should try to be first in the market to respect and cherish these special times of the Church's year and try to be Jesus' hands, eyes, voice, ears and feet as we walk through this life.
May we all receive God's blessing.
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Now that the Christmas and New Year festivities are over, I hope this letter finds you refreshed and well rested from the holidays and looking forward with excitement and optimism to all that 2015 will offer!
From a personal perspective I struggle, frequently, with the darkness of this time of year, which can be made worse by cold, damp and inclement weather, but I am always uplifted with the possibilities that each New Year offers us. I'm not alluding to New Year’s Resolutions at all by the way, being the first to admit that I have failed to achieve them every time I have made them, but to the new beginnings and new opportunities that may be out there for each and every one of us if we look more closely, or just listen perhaps with an open heart and mind to suggestions from a friend or family member.
Often without really realising it, we may come across new avenues or directions in our lives which we hadn't really thought about before - it might be a hobby or interest we are considering, or we may find renewed confidence to give something that we have never done before a try! And remember, it doesn't need to be a glamorous or adventuresome pursuit or activity either and so if you have an inkling to do something afresh and positive, why not do it? It might unleash untapped potential never recognised before or just be really, really good fun to do.
And so I wish you all the very best for 2015.
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The "door" as access to Advent and Christmas.
We handle doors daily and probably take them for granted. There are many types of doors in buildings, fences and walls, in vehicles and in devices. Doors serve as a passage to go in and to go out. Doors connect or separate spaces and protect us.
For infants doors can be obstacles, but when they are old enough they learn how to gain access to other rooms by opening doors. Children learn very early on that closed or open doors cause associated feelings. If they want to visit someone and knock on the door, the door opens and they are welcomed in, they feel happy. Vice a versa if they themselves have visitors and open the door to them and welcome in their guests they are happy. Closed doors on the other hand can provide us with uncomfortable feelings of exclusion. Many children prefer to sleep with the bedroom door open so as not to lose contact with the parents.
Can you remember when you were a child and you stood outside and despite ringing and knocking nobody opened the door to you. Maybe you forgot your house key or lost it (again!) and you had to wait until mum or dad came from work. Or have you ever locked yourself in and you had to wait to be freed. This is very different from closing your door for privacy. The feeling of being undisturbed is beneficial as it makes you feel protected and secure.
I remember reading stories and fairy tales that featured doors. Often the closed door hid a secret and made me curious. We use the idiomatic expression ‘behind closed doors’ if something takes place privately or in secret or ‘open new doors’ meaning to give someone new opportunities.
"Doors" as word picture can connect or separate people. For example we associate "open doors" mostly with positive experiences and associate them with hospitality, friendship, open and honest people and a welcoming community. On the contrary "closed doors" can evoke feelings of isolation, withdrawal or being locked up.
Images, such as a door, closed or open can have many different interpretations. A "closed door" can also be of protection, security or privacy; and "open doors" could leave a person defenceless and helpless.
As you open the doors on your Advent calendar think about the secret message of Christmas that lies behind each door.
I wish for you that all your doors open for the love and warmth of the Advent and Christmas season.
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LETTER FROM THE READER
The 4th of August 2014 marked the 100th anniversary of the day Britain entered one of the costliest conflicts in history – the First World War – with fighting continuing until the 11th of November 1918, Armistice Day. A special commemorative service was held on Sunday, 3rd August, to remember those from the village who lost their lives, just as we will remember them again, together with all who have lost their lives in the various conflicts over the years, on Remembrance Sunday, 9th November.
I don't know about you, but one book, film and stage play which caught my eye again this year was an exceptionally poignant story of one horse's experience in the First World War – "War Horse" by Michael Morpurgo. In 1914, Joey, a young farm horse, is sold to the army and thrust into the midst of the war on the Western Front. With his officer, he charges towards the enemy, witnessing the horror of the frontline. But even in the desolation of the trenches, Joey's courage touches the soldiers around him.
In World War I over ten million people, mainly young men, died. The war also claimed the lives of over six million horses. And it is this horrifying period of world history that forms the backdrop for War Horse, a tragic tale that is told from the viewpoint of the horse, Joey. It is a tale that cleverly portrays the ridiculousness of war by showing the horse's complete incomprehension of what was unfolding in the trenches and on the battlefield; the horse is simply unable to comprehend how, or why, anybody or anything would behave in such a violent, unthinking way and be able to commit such horrific acts. War Horse highlights human cruelty and human disdain for both animals and each other whilst also highlighting just how powerful love and courage can be.
There is so much conflict happening in varying parts of the world at the moment. Sometimes we just need to stop and take stock of what’s happening around us, to ponder on what’s going on in our own lives and to find some quiet space to think and reflect. I like to listen to some stirring, but reflective music. One piece I find myself humming time and time again with it’s wonderful cello solo is the Benedictus from Karl Jenkins' work "The Armed Man": A Mass for Peace'. Each of us will have our own favourite reflective piece or genre of music which brings us a sense of calm and inner peace. Some may prefer to go for a walk around our beautiful countryside and for those who prefer a quiet place, you are welcome to come and use St George's Chapel for silent reflection, where I pray you will find an inner spiritual rest.
With every blessing
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Throughout history, in-group/out-group dynamics have pitted brother against sister, husband against wife, aunt against uncle, cousin against cousin, child against parent.
The genocide in Rwanda is just one of the more recent examples. We may think we are different. Every person willing to speak about what happened there says the same thing. Except for the evidence before them, they would not believe that their loved-ones neighbour could become hated ones. It seems incomprehensible, but the same capacity is inside each of us. Learning to overcome our default social setting is the only way to guarantee that we will not turn eyes of hate on to those we love.
We like having clear categories, clear boundaries. We have a visceral reaction against cooperation or collaboration with the “enemy”. It is too reminiscent of the World Wars and the hated collaborators who betrayed those who helped the Jews escape, or turned Jewish men and women and children over to the Gestapo for deportation. Collaboration takes us too near appeasement. However, working with our enemies in ways that do not betray our core values humanizes us all. We embrace our shared humanity. Learning to see and integrate different points of view can keep our loved ones as loved ones and foster peace with our enemies. The more people practise these skills, the less hate is generated.
The only other option is to let our children and grandchildren continue to turn eyes of love to hate. The tales of Romeo and Juliet , West Side Story or Joseph and his Amazing Colourful Dream Coat (straight from the Bible Genesis 37 :1-35) illustrate the risk that transcends class, culture, and time. Audiences always leave the theatre thinking, “I’d be different.” We hope, with God's blessing, we will be.
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Several years ago my younger daughter went to a class on how to succeed at singing auditions. She learnt two things:-
We can learn from both these pieces of advice.
Kneeling to sing involves at some stage, getting back onto your feet. You may overbalance and fall and the effect leaves not the best memory of the performance. Kneeling down has its proper time and place, for example, when praying or when helping someone who has fallen.
Arrow prayers, (the ones which are sudden urgent needs), or most things we do to help others, are better done on our feet or sitting down. We do not want to be so busy overbalancing in our prayer life that we do not see around us all the people who need our everyday contact - a visit, a word, a phone call, a smile, a helping hand.
Nearly everyone feels nervous when standing up to sing, to read, to perform or to do any new task. Taking that small step often works - I know because I often have to do this. In our lives we should step out of our comfort zone and, step into the nervous zone and then out the other side and accomplish new things.
Recently I was with friends when we saw a shop with "Christian Duplicating Service". We suspected that Christian was his name - but it makes you wonder how, in real life, this could be done.
May we all receive God's blessing.
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Just over a month ago I finished my training at Ripon College Cuddesdon, a theological college in the beautiful Oxfordshire countryside, and I said my "goodbyes" to many good friends there that I made during my two years of study; many of us were sent out to serve the Church in various parishes scattered throughout the country whilst others remained at college. My "endings" gave way to my "new beginnings" as I moved to Staplehurst, and following ordination as a Deacon at the end of June in Canterbury Cathedral, I began my curacy at All Saints' under the care and guidance of Silke.
It has been a month of transitions. A new area, a new home, a new role, new routines and new people to meet and to get to know, and names to remember! Despite having a career in the National Health Service for 25 years, and living in many places during my life from industrial Sheffield to parts of Essex and Kent, I have always found transitions both testing but also full of excitement and opportunity. I have enjoyed my "new beginnings" here in Staplehurst and I have met so many kind, friendly and supportive people. The village has real warmth to it and I have felt welcomed here. My first day at All Saints' was a joy and I was greeted with so much friendliness and generous hospitality. And Staplehurst and the Parish Church are also so full of talent; I was blessed to be here for the Alternative Flower Festival, with its many awe-inspiring and spectacular displays, and the concert on Saturday evening and the Songs of Praise service on Sunday were both memorable and uplifting events.
I give thanks for both my "endings" and for my new opportunities here. I hope that I can serve the people of Staplehurst and All Saints' to the best of my ability as part of the team at the Parish Church. Although I have not been in the parish that long I am keen to get to know as many people as possible in the Church and in the village and so please feel free to contact me via e-mail or telephone or just say “hello” if you spot me walking to the Church or out and about in the village!
All the very best,
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